When you are planning to marry a woman, who already has child or children, then you need to make your mind set in order to become ideal step dad.
According to the research, about 55,000-60,000 million children below the age of thirteen are living with one biological parent and step dad/step mom.
Almost two out of three are expected to fail in order to grow the strong stepfamily.
It is most crucial thing for the step dad to understand his role and should do what he can to grow the relationship with stepchildren. If you cannot, it may lead the children with the lack of support.
Most of the men or women will have natural love on their hereditary children. As a step dad, you also should develop this sort of love on your step children; of course this will take sometime to happen.
Love your stepchildren as an individual, but you should never feel as if you are tolerating them.
If you cannot love your stepchildren, many new problems will arise, which can lead to division in the family, disobedience in the family, jealousy in children, etc.
As a step dad, you should have willingness to grow your relationship with the kids, but sometimes kids may have problems in adapting you as their father. So, give them sometime to adjust to it.
Being a step dad, consider some things in order to grow the good relationship with your stepchildren. Here are some tips to consider:
Tell your stepchildren about your past. Share your past experiences with your stepchildren so that they can know you. Take out your stepchildren to show where you bought up and show them your childhood photographs and your achievements (awards, degrees, etc).
Let them know what you are and be friendly with them. Being a step dad, do not scare or scold them unless they are comfortable with you.
Know the likes and dislikes of your stepchildren. Being a step dad, you should know what they like and what they dislike, what makes them happy, what they mostly enjoy to do, and many more.
By knowing this, you can understand where the stepchildren feel comfortable with you and you start the relationship by knowing their interests.
Communicate your interests with your stepchildren. There will be some common interests between you and your stepchildren like music, sports, cooking, painting, etc. This can help creating a bond between you and your stepchildren.
Implement gradual changes. Introduce changes gradually to your new home environment. You and your partner should discuss before implementing changes, as this will be huge adjustment for the stepchildren to make. Do not scare them by implementing new rules at a time.
Give stepchildren enough time. If your stepchildren does not accept you, being a step dad give them some time and love to get adjusted with you. You should not expect your stepchildren to respond immediately.
Being a step dad, along with the woman accept her children, love them, and make them comfortable with you.