Every family wants to raise independent and confident kids, but, things change if family dynamics are different. In this article, we will touch upon a really sensitive and infrequently addressed matter—homosexual parents and the task of raising children.
Reports and surveys clearly suggest socio-cultural chasm kids from gay parents suffer in the society. We may have laws, multiple public awareness programs, etc, but things have not settled down as smoothly as we think they have.
Considering the general outlook people have towards gay parents and their children, it becomes all the more important for the parents to effectively participate in the growth process of their kids.
Here are six tips for gay/lesbian parents:
1. A strong, interpersonal bond
In order to help your kid grow stronger, you will need to maintain strong family equations, and all of this starts with you.
Homosexual parents do suffer from insecurities, and these insecurities are often projected through their behavior. It is highly advised to avoid exhibiting such behavior towards kids because it will set up a bad example and discourage them from engaging with the outside world.
Your child should feel at home when he/she is with you!
2. Do not abuse them
The family dynamics of a homosexual are different, and sometimes, parents tend to get frustrated—do not let this frustration take a toll on your sanity.
You do not want to end up abusing your own children for the mistakes or decisions of your life. Be confident in your relationship with your partner and your child. The way you behave towards your kid will greatly influence his personality.
3. Do not hide the truth
Assisted conception is the truth, and you must not hide this from your kid. Be very open to your kid about how he/she was conceived. Your child deserves to know from your mouth, not from some stranger’s.
The tip about telling the truth may seem unnecessary because the child will inevitably know about this, but, as a parent, you are supposed to not let such matters take a backseat. The more open you are to your child, the well-knitted the family is.
4. Teach them to stand up for their own good
Your children might have to face bullying for a substantial number of his early years, and you cannot be ignorant of this.
Teach them how to take care of themselves under adverse circumstances; teach them to speak up against bullying; teach them to be proud of themselves and their family.
5. Do not be over-protective
Homosexual parents may become over-protective towards their children, and this should be avoided. You should concern yourself with the affairs of your children reasonably, and let them learn by themselves the fundamentals of life.
Make sure your children face life head-on, without any protective shell hiding them from the realities of life.
6. Become their role models
Children with gay parents often feel ashamed of their families. You should make sure that they look up to their families with high esteem.
Become their role models—inspire them to lead life the way it should be; give them goals in life; be caring and do everything possible which straight parents would do.