Parenting is considered to be the job of both parents (mother and father).
If it comes to single parenting, it is the responsibility of that single parent to look after the child; it might be single mother or single father.
Single mother plays a role of both the parents, which is the most difficult aspect of life. The hardest task of life is becoming a single mother either by choice, by divorce, or by any other issues.
Single mother almost discuss things with her children, so this makes their children become more responsible and independent when compared to other children.
Single mothers can become a role model in guiding their daughters and if it comes to their sons, it will be difficult to fulfill their needs. The word “difficult” does not mean that they are raising bad sons.
If there is a family support for these single mothers, then the gap can be filled by male role models of the family (grandfathers, uncles, or family friends) in terms of guidance and advices.
Here are some tips for those who do not have any help to develop their children with a father as a role model:
Spend time with your children when they need you. You have to work in order to support them and fulfill their needs, but be sure that you are not taking your work-related frustrations on them. Apart from supporting them, you need to look after their school needs and households.
If you are single mother by divorce, do not make your children against their father, as it does not denote that your ex-husband cannot be a good father.
Father also should provide his share in parenting, especially in financial matters. Single mother will get support from the court legally when he refuses to pay child support.
If you are single mother by choice, you should never hide that from your kid and tell who the father of that child is.
You should take care of finance as no proper plan in financial matters gives many problems. Take proper care to avoid financial crises, as you need to support your kids.
Do not try to protect your children too much. Allow them to live their life without your much interference.
Being a single mother, you have more responsibilities. Just remember that they are your kids and they love you as much as you love them. It does not mean that as you are single mother you are less lovable.
A single mother is playing both mother and father roles simultaneously. So, you have to balance both roles by treating like a mother and scolding like a father when your kid is wrong.
Single parenthood is very challenging. Being a single parent, you are responsible for each and every aspect of your kid’s life.
There are various single mother programs that you can join, where you can meet many other single mothers and know their problems in raising their children. At the same time, you can also express your problems with others.